Arlington Strong

History classes in high school, and even in college, often, to me, were tedious exercises taught by some who just didn’t manage to bring the subject alive. It’s ironic, then, that I would be so engaged in the topic at a place for the dead: Arlington National Cemetery. Walking somewhat randomly, but generally following groups of tourists, I crossed eras of American history. Sacrifice and fairness were themes of the day.

The Kennedy era was first up. The ’60s seem so dark, marked by the assassinations of John Kennedy, Robert Kennedy, and Martin Luther King, Jr. But the promise of civil rights for the oppressed made me wonder how much of a meritocracy we actually are. Seeing the grave of Sen. Edward Kennedy, I wondered about his military service and the qualifications to be admitted to Arlington National Cemetery. Does one need connections to get in? Who determines placement and headstone size?

The Kennedy family graves at Arlington Cemetery are prominently placed. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The Kennedy family graves at Arlington Cemetery are prominently placed. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Ted turns out to have done some military time (albeit, allegedly, in Paris), but his dedicated area at Arlington—about which I was informed by a tour guide that his estate pays to maintain—was just one of some interesting incongruities about American history evidenced at the site. Rules of admission do exist, though how one gets a big space or a prominent placement is a bit obscure to me.

Continuing up to the Custis-Lee mansion, with its impressive views of the Potomac and the Lincoln Memorial, I was heartened to hear the role of slave labor acknowledged at the site. Slaves built the house and maintained the property. What I hadn’t known before setting foot in the space was that Robert E. Lee, general of the Confederacy during the Civil War, was the great-grandson-in-law to the first president himself, George Washington. How ironic that a few generations after Washington had fought to establish the nation a relative sought to end it.

The role of terrorism—and historical mysteries—surfaced next on our walk. The monument to those who died in Pan Am Flight 103 was an interesting choice; to me, the placement of the stones from Scotland, where an on-board bomb exploded and the plane crashed in 1988, resembled a smokestack more than an homage to the innocent lives lost. The piece triggered a conversation: Why did Libya bomb the plane? No one knows. There was a bit of a tit-for-tat, back-and-forth, aggression meets aggression stance between Libyan leader Muammar el-Qaddafi and then-President Ronald Reagan back in the 1980s. The humanitarian release of one Libyan accused and convicted of involvement in the attack was an interesting moment in jurisprudence; the eventual collapse of the Libyan government and the killing of Qaddafi during the Arab Spring may well mean that the rationale for the bombing, and the full list of people involved in it, will never surface.

The mast of the U.S.S. Maine at Arlington National Cemetery. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The mast of the U.S.S. Maine at Arlington National Cemetery. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

From there, we found the mast of the Maine, which launched a discussion of the sinking of that ship’s historical importance. The ship exploded in Havana harbor in 1898 at a time when Cubans were seeking freedom from their Spanish rulers. Some considered the Spanish to be at fault, although the actual cause remains murky. Nevertheless, the incident was a contributor to the launch of the Spanish-American War and serves as a reminder that the United States apparently has gone to battle more than once after relying on faulty intelligence.

I was a little uncomfortable with the size of the Confederate Memorial, just as I am uncomfortable with the Confederacy’s cause. I wonder how often the losing side is appeased with statuary.

The size of the memorial commemorating southern soldiers in the Civil War was surprising. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The size of the memorial commemorating southern soldiers in the Civil War was surprising. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

More moving were the sheer numbers of small, individual markers identifying people who had been willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for their country. More than 400,000 people are buried there. Those who seem to have fought the hardest might be more deserving of prominent placement than some of the politicians found interred at the site.

World War II hero Audie Murphy's grave marker is a humble one. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

World War II hero Audie Murphy’s grave marker is a humble one. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Our last stop was at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, where veterans of World War II, now quite elderly, were visiting for Armed Forces Day. Seeing these grandfatherly men, all in wheelchairs, each wearing a cap labeling him a veteran, reminded me again of how much we have to appreciate—thanks to the sacrifices of them and of their generation, and of those buried at Arlington and elsewhere.

—Lori Tripoli         2013ArmedForcesDayHiRes jpeg

 

 

 

 

Something Different for Date Night: Wine, Cheese & Howling with Wolves

The last time I’d visited the Wolf Conservation Center in South Salem, N.Y., I’d been in the company of a pack of Cub Scouts. As fun as that was, having a bit of wine with people more my contemporaries on my latest visit was almost as soothing as our efforts to howl. The Wolf Conservation Center, located in a fairly residential neighborhood just off Route 35, is home to more than two dozen wolves, some of whom will be released into the wild.

Visitors are in an enclosure at the Wolf Conservation Center; the wolves run freely in their habitat. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Visitors are in an enclosure at the Wolf Conservation Center; the wolves run freely in their habitat. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Others serve as ambassadors—they’re more socialized and are used to teach people that Little Red Riding Hood had nothing to fear.  They’ll howl in respond to the crowd, and, surprisingly, my soft-coated wheaten terrier sounded more intimidating than the high-pitched singing of the wolves.

Wolves aren’t vegetarians, though, and they and ranchers do not often get along. Hence, the wolf population in North America has been greatly depleted. Organizations like the Wolf Conservation Center are helping to support wolf—and to grow—communities.

The wolves had more to fear of Little Red Riding Hood than she of them.

The wolves had more to fear of Little Red Riding Hood than she of them.

Go with your 10 year old, or take your life partner. Programs suitable for each, or for all, are available. The Brawny Sherpa and I went for wine, cheese, and howling with wolves, a sociable get-together for the 21-plus crowd. Programs geared for kids are, of course, available; and camping with wolves is an option, in summer, for the entire family. If you are too distant, check out the wolf cam.

© Lori Tripoli

The Oblivious Queens of Versailles

Visiting Versailles, the palace of French kings, and the Conciergerie, the prison where Queen Marie Antoinette spent her last days, one can’t help but wonder, How could it possibly have ended like this? Elements of the story do make sense: the queen seemed largely unschooled, her spouse weak, her home far removed from any squalor. But still. Her mother was the leader of Austria, she had family throughout Europe, advisors were aplenty. Could not one have said, quite forcefully, Cut back? Contrasting Marie Antoinette with Catherine the Great of Russia, one wonders how Catherine—also a foreigner (from Prussia), also married to a weak man—managed to take over a country and to lead, while Marie Antoinette stood by her man all the way to the guillotine. How could the queen of France possibly have been so obtuse?

An example of the extravagant decor of Versailles. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

An example of the extravagant decor of Versailles. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Interestingly, a documentary on another Versailles, the largest single-family home in the United States being constructed in Florida, is instructive on the happenings at the real one. The Sunshine State Versailles, being constructed by David and Jackie Siegel, is monstrously large and exorbitantly extravagant, just as the real one. Not owned by a king or even a politician, Florida Versailles is the apparent dream home of a time-share maven. Siegel’s company sells little bits of paradise to those who may not be able to afford it; he seemingly wants a bigger piece of paradise but also may not be able to swing the expense, according to Lauren Greenfield’s 2012 documentary, The Queen of Versailles, which chronicles the Siegels’ marriage, their life, and the meltdown of their business after the 2008 financial crisis. They are forced to cut back, sort of. Private jets and limousines are out; rental cars are in. That Jackie Siegel doesn’t understand that Hertz doesn’t provide private drivers reminds viewers how oblivious even people from very humble roots can become.

Rather than waiting for a man to rescue her, Marie Antoinette might have taken a lesson from Catherine the Great. Photo of Versailles. Photo credit: V. Laino

Rather than waiting for a man to rescue her, Marie Antoinette might have taken a lesson from Catherine the Great. Photo of Versailles. Photo credit: V. Laino

Jackie Siegel is originally from Binghamton, NY, and from a seemingly very modest life. She is quite likable. She’s educated. She just can’t seem to cut back like she should. She claims she can’t afford a watch but hasn’t sold off her furs. She seems to think American Recovery and Reinvestment Act funds should be used to help people like her. Like that long-ago queen of France, she’s too far removed from the real world around her. What she and Marie Antoinette should have done is taken a lesson from Catherine the Great: If your life, your marriage, your country aren’t going the way you want them to, don’t sit around and wait for your husband to fix it. Take charge.

©Lori Tripoli

Of Fire, Ice, Blimps, and Ships at the National Postal Museum

Small museums can be wonderful places to learn about different perspectives. At the National Postal Museum, located right next to Union Station in Washington, D.C., visitors can begin to appreciate mail carriers a bit more fully. On a recent visit, I tossed packages into slots designated with the names of different cities on them. I clearly need more practice. I got to pretend to drive a postal truck (quite large!), and hand-cancelled postcards.

An old mail truck at the National Postal Museum. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

An old mail truck at the National Postal Museum. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Most interesting to me was the Fire & Ice exhibit, focusing on the Hindenburg airship and Titanic disasters. I have a personal connection to the Hindenburg, the blimp that exploded at the Lakehurst Naval Air Station in New Jersey back in 1937.

My grandfather, Joseph Edward Kearns, was a teenager at the time and earned $1 every time he helped pull the blimp down using ropes. He was there the day the dirigible exploded.  He was unharmed, but he, his sister, Mary Ellen, and my great-grandmother, Mary Meyer Kearns Basso, had known some of the crew members, who used to visit the Chat Away Inn where my great-grandmother worked.

I don’t know whether my grandfather earned his dollar the day the Hindenburg exploded. He didn’t talk much about the details of the tragedy. Years later, he became a postmaster in nearby Lakewood.

The Fire & Ice exhibit at the National Postal Museum in Washington, DC. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The Fire & Ice exhibit at the National Postal Museum in Washington, DC. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

I learned from the exhibition at the postal museum that some mail survived the Hindenburg disaster, but none from the Titanic sinking did. I hadn’t really thought about other uses of either airships or cruise ships; apparently, mail was part of their cargo.

The Hindenburg blimp exploded in Lakehurst, NJ, in 1937. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The Hindenburg blimp exploded in Lakehurst, NJ, in 1937. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

To learn more about Lakehurst, NJ, and about the Hindenburg, visit the Lakehurst Historical Society. It’s located in a tiny, old Catholic church in Lakehurst. My grandfather is buried in its graveyard.

 

But if you happen to be in DC, the National Postal Museum is a charming place to begin learning about one particular dirigible.

­—Lori Tripoli

How to Feel like You’re Living in Florence

If I’m not reading stories, I’m trying to live them, and there’s no better place to do that than while traveling. I’m not so much seeking escape as looking for a going-to. No matter how long I’m in a new place, I want to feel like I live there.

Florence DuomoThat’s harder for me in the big hotel chains in the United States, but living my dream, bit by bit, is far more possible in places like Florence. The last time the Youthful Adventurer and I were there, we walked from the train station, rolling our suitcases along the ancient sidewalks to Hotel Alessandra, then up the stairs to the tiny elevator, and then up to the second floor (which was the third, in my mind) to a charming safe harbor.

Our street-front windows allow us to watch the tourists below; we linger over breakfasts and savor our coffee; I’m grateful the Youthful Adventurer has managed to abandon his penchant for too sweet cereals during our time here. We are in the breakfast room when I meet a woman from London who in the space of 20 minutes tells me all about contemporary politics in the UK and the specialized tour she is taking in Florence to learn all about Galileo. I am reminded that all of the beautiful churches we are visiting on this trip can’t mask the misdeeds of some of their leaders. The threat of science to the Church seems remote to my life, but it wasn’t to Galileo, who managed to rile religion with his ideas that the Earth revolves around the sun. The Church didn’t kill him, but Galileo was accused of heresy, tried, convicted, and sentenced to house arrest.

I’d never have learned all of this in a large hotel, where I would have sat, alone or with my son, and not talked to strangers. It’s the smaller experiences, the kind you can get in inexpensive, unpretentious, old hotels, those build in the 1500s, that make the trip.

­—Lori Tripoli

The Takeaway from Firenze

I could barely recall my trip to Florence 20 years earlier. I knew I’d seen the statue of David, and the Duomo, and loved its doors, and been surprised by how spare its interior was compared to its façade. I still wear the gold ring I bought on the Ponte Vecchio but long ago lost one of the gold hoops I’d gotten as well. Was there anything else?

Florence's Duomo in 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

Florence’s Duomo in 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The Youthful Adventurer and I weren’t 100 yards off the train when I remembered the narrowness of Florence’s streets, how much fun I’d had with friends jumping back up on the ancient sidewalks when a car passed. This time, he would be the one leaping up to the curb to escape the traffic or down again to let another tourist pass. Here in the land of gelato and pizza, we were brought back to the time of the Medicis, to Michelangelo. We wonder how tall they were.

An image of David taken in 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

An image of David taken in 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

 

 

The Youthful Adventurer proceeds from jumping off sidewalks to touching glass, flapping papers, knocking into shutters, and setting off alarms at the Palazzo Pitti. Walking the grounds, he can’t get into much mischief. He is awed in the Medici chapel at the church of San Lorenzo.  I learn that as much—and as surprisingly—as he is attentive in churches, we need to stay away from museums. He is 13 on this trip. We speed through the Uffizi when I would like to linger. I’m going to have to come back to Florence again.

—Lori Tripoli

Italy on a Budget: Rome Can Be Reasonable

As a single mom trying to give the Youthful Adventurer the eighth-grade graduation trip of his dreams, I planned our journey carefully, being most worried about how my limited budget would match up with my son’s hope to visit the Colosseum. When in Rome, we wouldn’t be staying in palazzos or taxiing around very much, but what we lost in grandeur we made up for with location by staying at the Hotel Suissecolosseum

Our space in this very small hotel of just a dozen rooms had all that we needed: a private bathroom, a continental breakfast, and, most importantly, an ideal location. Located near the Spanish Steps, and, of most interest to the youthful one, to McDonald’s, my teen earned his own sense of independence when I let him venture out to bring dinner to us one evening. Rome with a teen turned out not to be that pricey—a burger, some pizza, a gelato were all he really required.

In choosing a place like the Hotel Suisse, what I really wanted was the review of someone who’d been there. I’ve been there. It was perfect for us on our little journey. Our room overlooked a courtyard, so the noise of the city was safely obscured. The hotel was a healthy journey from the Termini, but we walked it nevertheless, and I could see my young son’s awe as we walked on street after street and observed the blend of ancient and contemporary.

From our hotel, all we needed was a comfortable, secure, clean place to rest, and we got it.

—Lori Tripoli

How to Choose a Hotel in Cancun

The Hyatt Regency Cancun is functional, not grandiose. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

The Hyatt Regency Cancun is functional, not grandiose. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Determining which hotel to stay in during a Cancun vacation is likely to be a traveler’s most intellectually challenging problem on a trip of this sort. The monster resorts that have grown up on a narrow spit of sand since hotel developers descended on this then-unexploited space on the coast in the 1970s seemingly offer every amenity imaginable: glitzy lobbies, wondrous food, beach front, pools, spas. How on earth can a tourist choose?

The beach is much wider today than it was in 1989. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

The beach is much wider today than it was in 1989. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Well, there’s price of course. Personally, I quickly tire of endless comparisons. I’m more of a “consider three, select one” sort. Who has the time or energy to compare the types of facials and massages offered at every single place?

Even with guidebook in hand, there are too many hotels for me to reasonably sort the pros and cons of each. I’m sure I could be happy at every single one. My main desire is to stay away from any place the spring-break kids might be patronizing.

In 1989, the walk to the beach from the Hyatt Regency Cancun was a fairly short one. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

In 1989, the walk to the beach from the Hyatt Regency Cancun was a fairly short one. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

A waterfront room at the Hyatt Regency Cancun. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

A waterfront room at the Hyatt Regency Cancun. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Ultimately, I choose a less glitzy, more practical option: the Hyatt Regency Cancun. Built in 1983 and renovated in 2007, the place is functional. With just under 300 rooms, the Hyatt Regency doesn’t overwhelm.

The lobby doesn’t dazzle; no one is too formal to traipse through it in a bathing suit and a cover-up. The food is fine, the spa is relaxing. I didn’t spend any substantive time at the pool, which doesn’t entirely overlook the ocean.

What the Hyatt has that appeals to me is location: It’s right on Punta (“point”) Cancun, where Bahia  (“bay”) de Mujeres meets the Caribbean. Its beach is now wide, a stark contrast to the skinny bit of sand that was present on my visit there in 1989 when the effects of Hurricane Gilbert were still highly visible. Sand, sea, and service are all l really need.

The view from a cabana. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

The view from a cabana. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

©Lori Tripoli

 

Cancun Tours: How Good Is the Gray Line?

Three times on my recent trip to Cancun I wound up on a Gray Line tour, and my experiences ranged from “highly recommend—would sign up again” to a less-than-entirely-enthusiastic “you get what you pay for.”

Our Gray Line tour to Chichen Itza is one we recommend taking. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Our Gray Line tour to Chichen Itza is one we recommend taking. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Working in 700 locations around the planet, this is an outfit with some depth and experience. Professionalism and quality were certainly hallmarks of my Gray Line tour to Chichen Itza. The Brawny Sherpa and I were ferried from Cancun to the Mayan city via a small passenger van and guided, with ease, over the ancient grounds. There was just the right mix of freedom to wander and educational lecturing. Skipping a buffet lunch with other touirsts, we sprang for the upgrade and enjoyed ourselves in the relative calm at the restaurant at the Mayaland hotel before jumping in its pool to cool off. Sure, taking a tour to Cancun didn’t provide quite the adventure I’d had when some girlfriends and I rented a Jeep and took our own little road trip to various Mexican destinations a couple of decades ago, but, this time, our journey spared us  any worries about finding our way there and back. We didn’t have to think; our biggest task was to relax. Our conclusion? This Gray Line trip we would take again.

The Gray Line 'sunset' cruise in Cancun took place in the dark and was a bit hokey. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

The Gray Line ‘sunset’ cruise in Cancun took place in the dark and was a bit hokey. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Our second experience with the Gray Line was a sunset cruise around Cancun. We’d earned the free trip after booking our Mexican vacation on Orbitz. The pickup at our hotel was half an hour late and necessitated a call, the sky was dark by the time we boarded the boat, and we ended up drinking rum punch and beer and watching young newlyweds suck alcohol out of baby bottles in drinking contests.  I was surprised the Gray Line was using a free cruise as a marketing tool because if this event had been my only exposure to the company, I wouldn’t have booked again. The most amusing part of the evening came when the Brawny Sherpa asked a bartender about the ‘sunset’ aspect of our journey. The response? “The sun set; now we cruise.” The boat ride was free, and I was glad we hadn’t paid for it.

The Gray Line cruise via catamaran to Isla Mujeres was crowded but fun. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

The Gray Line cruise via catamaran to Isla Mujeres was crowded but fun. Photo credit: M. Ciavardini

Our last adventure with the good folks from the Gray Line came via a catamaran ride to nearby Isla Mujeres. By this point in our journey, the Brawny Sherpa and I saw no difficulty in consuming tequila sunrises before noon, and on this adventure, we weren’t alone. Our day trip included drinks, a buffet lunch, plenty of good music on the boat, and time to explore the island. Snorkeling had also been on the agenda, but the water was too rough for anyone to go be paddling around at that particular time. For 30 bucks, we rented a golf cart and raced around the island, visiting the ruins on its tip, checking out the local graveyard, and dashing into a few tee-shirt stores before it was time for us to depart. This adventure was fine, but we would have been willing to pay more for a less-crowded, more sedate sail to the island.

© Lori Tripoli

Chichen Itza, Top to Bottom

Even as my lawyerly side contemplated liability, I relished climbing the monuments at the Mayan city of Chichen Itza on my first visit there 24 years ago. I remember hearing stories of high-heeled women falling to their deaths on the narrow steps of El Castillo, the pyramid on which the Mayan serpent god appears in the shadows on equinoxes. Back in 1989, I marveled that there wasn’t so much as a railing to protect tourists ascending the monument, just a chain-link rope to cling to. After climbing to the top with a bit of dignity, I shed all self-consciousness and went back down those narrow steps on all fours, feet first. I had no pride but got an incredible memory.

The view from the upper steps of El Castillo in Chichen Itza, 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

The view from the upper steps of El Castillo in Chichen Itza, 1989. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

A yellowed 1989 image of Chac-Mool at Chichen Itza. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

A yellowed 1989 image of Chac-Mool at Chichen Itza. Photo credit: L. Tripoli

I experienced Chichen Itza entirely differently on my most recent visit. Our guide informed us that tourists had not been allowed to climb the monuments since Chichen Itza became one of the new seven wonders of the world in 2007. The place would be preserved, but visitors would no longer get to see the ball court as the Mayan elite had, from positions high above an apparently bloody playing field. No one could touch Chac-Mool. The observatory would only be seen from a distance.

I wondered what impact the rational decision to prohibit tourists from traipsing on the exhibits had on the tourist industry surrounding Chichen Itza. The first time there, my friends and I made an overnight adventure of our visit, staying at the Hacienda Chichen. This time, we made a day trip of it, departing from Cancun via a small passenger van on a Grayline tour. We didn’t feel short-changed; if you’re not climbing on the monuments, you can manage to see the place thoroughly in a few hours. We had plenty of time for lunch and swimming at the Mayaland Hotel. Top or bottom, Chichen Itza is impressive. But I had much more of an adventure there when it was more of a jungle playground.

The view from beyond the ropes at Chichen Itza today. Photo credit: A Kindly Stranger

The view from beyond the ropes at Chichen Itza today. Photo credit: A Kindly Stranger

© Lori Tripoli